Self-care is a critical element to be a healthy lawyer. Yet, I know so many lawyers who neglect their own physical, emotional and mental health. Why?
I think law students are conditioned by the media and law schools to be self-destructive. I learned to disregard my own feelings and needs for food/sleep to accomplish my goal- graduate law school. Anybody else?
I was always a hard worker but I learned how to truly grind in law school. I learned to disregard my feelings. Hungry? Later. Tired. Later. Angry at the butthole who implied I didn’t belong? Much later. I learned to give ‘ B-face and full attitude’. I learned as we all do, that emotion has no place in law.
How utterly ridiculous is that?
Law is all about desires and emotions, especially the ones we can’t control.
Law is intimate
Law is intimate. You are all up in someone’s personal business when you practice law. Clients will have emotions. Sometimes, you wish they didn’t. I know. Awkward.
Years as a mediator and Ombuds taught me to think of that emotion differently. Think of it as a gift. You can accept it or not. You can hold it and give it back. You can redirect the gift to another place.
We, as lawyers, need to find new ways of embracing the emotion of our clients so we can finally be connected to our own feelings again. I’d love to see more lawyers becoming emotionally smart, or what I call ‘#EQstrong’. You’ll be happier when you know yourself better. Your business will grow when you know what is your strength and what you should give away (even if you like it.)
The future of law is technology, delegation, and collaboration.
That’s why I was overjoyed to be interviewed by one of today’s leading voices on lawyer mindfulness, Jeena Cho.
If you don’t know Jeena’s work, you are in for a real treat. Author of the Anxious Lawyer and Forbes contributor, Jeena is on a mission with her Resilient Lawyer podcast to offer up practical and actionable information to make you a better lawyer, inspired to bring more balance, joy and satisfaction to your professional life.
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