You’re running your law practice as a solo but that doesn’t mean you have to do it alone.

Recently, I read a post on Facebook from a lawyer who was praising her lawyer colleagues for stepping up to help her with a team issue and turnover.

I want to praise the author for reaching out for help. As lawyers, we are conditioned to believe that we can solve any problem ALONE. We don’t need help. Getting help is seen as a weakness.

Except, that’s not true.

You need help. I need help. We all do at some point.

What Getting Help Says about You

The fear is that when you ask for help you reveal:

  • your weakness
  • lack of knowledge
  • incompetence

Let me ask you something. The last time someone asked you for help did you immediately judge them? Did you think of that person as weak, stupid, or incapable?

Probably not.

Did you feel like the request was a burden or waste of your time?

Probably not.

Were you happy to help out? YES! We all want to share our talents and knowledge with others. It’s part of what makes us human. It feels good!

Reaching out for help tells me that you are/have:

  • Self-aware You know your own strengths and weaknesses
  • High emotional intelligence. You know you are valuable & worthy
  • High social awareness. You see the talents of those around you and are open to giving the gift of being useful.
  • Unconcerned about owing others. You don’t see the world as a ‘sum-zero’ game.

It took me years to learn this lesson. It’s such a valuable lesson that adopting this mindset is one of the first things I focus on when coaching someone through their Outsourcing Strategy. Outsourcing works best when you see it as a rapid growth tool instead of a worrisome chore.

Big Takeaways

  • Asking for help is as much about giving as it is taking.
  • Asking for help means you value the other person and yourself
  • Asking for help grows your business and your personal development!

I had to ask for A LOT of help from friends and strangers when I moved from California to New York during the pandemic. I struggled at first, but I drink my own koolaid. I gave myself a mindset adjustment and got it done!

I’d love to hear about a time when you struggled to ask for help but got so many blessings when you eventually asked.

By the way, if you’d like help learning how to delegate to your social media manager, you’re welcome to join my free mini-class of the same name.


Dina Lynch Eisenberg, JD, is the CEO of, an outsourcing training/consulting firm for successful lawyers and entrepreneurs based in Oakland, CA.

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